I overheard (over read?) an argument on Facebook a few months ago.
I don’t remember the exact context, but the gist of the argument was whether or not the role of “mom” is hard.
One young mom had commented about the days being hard, and an older mom challenged her choice of words, explaining that there are a lot of hard things in life — death, disease, divorce — but motherhood is not one of them.
In essence, this older mom contended that many women dream of being a mom but can’t be. Furthermore, in life:
husbands harbor hate.
vows are violated.
Life is hard — but not motherhood.
Challenging? Some days.
Exhausting? Can be.
Hard? Not at all.
I read the thread and my heart just felt sad. Really, it was all just semantics — and two women walking through difficult days — difficult in polar opposite ways, but difficult nonetheless.
My heart went out to both women, but I read that conversation on a particularly demanding day with the children — a time when being a mom did in fact feel. very. hard!
I didn’t comment. I rarely engage an argument, especially on Facebook. But the dialogue continues to run through my mind, and the question lingers: Is it hard to be a mom?
How would you have responded? How do you feel?
Do you think motherhood is hard?